I have to agree with you. While his arguments against living a divided life and being true to oneself are on target, and the arguments for living day to day thinking only of experiences and social order are enticingly free of any responsibility to a larger goal or purpose, we need to realize that we DO have a responsibility, and it's a big one: To accept Christ as our savior! As a gay man, I have found this to be especially hard when I can't seem to accept myself as gay. My own struggle is not one of religion, however. Quite the contrary, I have found support only in the religious organizations I have been involved in (and they're even Lutheran!!). I recently returned from a weekend retreat that dealt with homosexuality, and of the 30 people there, at least 25 were in support of homosexuals, 3 of these were pastors! Granted, the rest of the participants were college students, which tend to be more liberal than our elders, yet I find this very encouraging for my own role in the church as I get older. The places I find the most homophobia are in the general public, among friends and family (would they say what they do if they knew who I really was?). For me, where I turn to be truly honest about myself is to my Lord. And someday, with His help, I will come out to friends and family, knowing that no matter what they do with that knowledge, I still have a solid and forever friend and companion in Jesus.

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